One of the most wonderful parts of seeing clients in their homes and connecting older adults with long term care programs is supporting individuals and families in home settings. Along with keeping families together, it allows older adults to have their pets around, improving quality of life for all involved.
One of the most memorable pets I’ve met is Terry the cat-a very large grey cat. His owner, Marie, lives alone and has a limited support system. She told me that he comes running when she calls him Baby.
On one occasion a few years back, I brought my puppy into my workplace, which was an adult day center. One frail woman fell to her knees when she saw the puppy and held the dog with tears in her eyes. “I used to have a dog just like that and I miss her so much”, she said.
In the book, “A Man Called Ove”, there is a heartwarming subplot about his relationship with a stray cat. When Ove peacefully passes away, the cat curls up on his chest.
Pets help us to live in the present moment. It’s important to remember even when someone may be older, possibly ill or have a dementia, animals will likely provide the joy and feeling of connectedness.
I hope you enjoy this slideshow that outlines specific reasons why animals are wonderful companions for older people.
I went to a training this week and was reminded of the importance of listening to what people tell us about what is meaningful in their lives. The presenter sang a version of The Rolling Stones You Can’t Always Get What you Want, but instead he sang “You get what we think you need”. The takeaway here is that people tell us all the time what they need from us, yet we let our assumptions distract us from the real message, and we make quick interpretations and assumptions.
I think this applies to all of us-we all need to be better listeners, in particular to Older Adults. What makes life meaningful for them? How can we keep those things intact when people need support from family friends and formal service providers.
A recent conversation with my Mother in Law, an expert family cook who now has her meals provided by her assisted living, reminded me of this. She lit up when discussing the special glaze she made for her ham loaf. We discussed how much we enjoyed it at holidays and provided an opportunity to ask her how she made the glaze. I saw the same spark of interest when she discussed the way she prepared rhubarb, which she has often called “the Spring tonic”. Here is a photo of her preparing her own rhubarb sauce where she resides.
I read an article published by Next Avenue for Older Americans Month in May that talks about the need to establish the shared value of healthy aging. It is never too late to address the importance of exercise, nutrition and social engagement.
Also, it is important to have a good understanding of what parts of the aging process are normal and what are some common myths. There are two myths specifically to look at-changes in memory and mental health.
When are memory problems part of normal aging and when should others start to worry? A little bit of forgetfulness comes with age related changes to the brain. Alzheimer’s or dementia is not normal aging. If you see confusion, personality changes and disorientation over a period of time, you can ask for a memory workup. There are specific things to rule out that can mimic dementia that are reversible. It is important to try to get a specific diagnosis for dementia because it may help to know the course of the illness and it can allow time to plan for the future.
People experience grief and sadness as normal reactions to losses associated with aging. When do you know if an older adult is in need of extra psychological or psychiatric help? If you see a person isolating themselves and expressing feelings of helplessness and hopelessness more than a year following a loss, you can pursue a psychiatric evaluation. There are treatments for depression and also a medical doctor can rule out other causes.
I picked these two areas in particular because in my experience, they are the most often misunderstood aspects of aging. Society in general, including some in the medical field tend to not address changes in memory or changes in emotional wellbeing, often attributing these changes falsely to the aging process.
While I am a social worker not a medical professional, I have met many older adults taking 5 or 6 or 7 different medications on a daily basis. There are risks and side effects and interactions that come along with polypharmacy. Doctors may not catch these things without patients stopping to ask.
All older adults deserve to optimize everything they can to live a full life! #ageoutloud #oam17